John and I usually stay away from social issues when it comes to the blog; not because we don’t have opinions on them, but because we feel that they are too often used as distractions. Few social arguments are concrete and almost all of their riddles can be solved with founding constitutional principles. Abortion, however, is very near and dear to me. Without saying too much, I was born from a mother who was pregnant at 14 and a man who was 18.
This weekend I ran across a post on hotair that got me worked up. The post was written by Lori Ziganto of NewsReal Blog, titled “MTV’s Teen Abortion Sales Pitch: It’s Just “A Ball of Cells”. Lori took the time to watch the newest episode of MTV’s “16 and Pregnant” that, for the first time, focused on a girl who decided to have an abortion. After reading her piece I decided to watch it for myself here.
It’s truly heartbreaking to see a 16 year old girl deal with the consequences of her decision to have sex. It’s even more devastating to watch her coerced into the “normal option” of killing the unborn baby. In the case of this young girl, Markai, was told by the “counselor” not to think of the baby as something with ten fingers and ten toes, but to think of it as what it is, “a ball of cells”. This lie was convenient enough for the moment of execution and therefore accepted momentarily, but my heart fell when, hours after the abortion, Markai began to have an internal struggle with that lie. When her boyfriend referred to the aborted baby as “a thing” she become offended and took out on him what seemed to be her own guilt. Sadly, she began to cry and pointedly told him that he couldn’t understand her pain and that a thing, a ball of cells can “turn into that” [pointing at their 1 year old baby].
You see, Markai was duped by a “counselor” at her moment of greatest vulnerability, but her nature knew better. There is nothing normal about going into a birth canal and destroying the life within you (or even the potential of life if you prefer). There’s nothing normal about referring to a fetus as “just a bunch of cells” and denying that which will become a person full of life and potential. There’s nothing normal about celebrating the extinguishing of 50 million unborn babies and calling those who do it “brave”.
“Normal” has become the makeup of pigs in the abortion dialogue. Perhaps the worst use of the word is when it’s used to write off the very real damage done to these young women. Their feelings of loss, their confusion, and their questions are all “normal”. Of course, they are normal reactions to an abnormal situation. Awkwardness is completely normal for a man with one leg. The “normal lie” focuses on the reaction and ignores the deformity.
Another unfortunate aspect displayed in this show is the mechanism used to make victims of these women while completely ignoring their true victimhood. These women are, by default, victims of a system that doesn’t praise them for their “responsible action”. Shamelessly ironic is the fact that these women were praised throughout their procedure and even years after by proponents of their actions. Overlooking the real victims for a moment (the babies), the other victims here are the girls who have been duped into the lie that they are courageous sufferers for a greater cause.
There is a challenge here that has been set up by the left at the expense of these young ladies. Questioning their tough decision (or coercion) to abort will quickly be deemed as hateful judgment. The real crime is that when anyone stands up against the action of abortion, these young women are sent to the front line to be used as human shields by the left. Side with an unborn child and the victimhood of raped teens will be thrown in to take your arrows. The left calls these young women courageous, not for making a tough decision, but for being the ground thumpers in their war.
Lori Ziganto is right on in her assessment of the idea of “sacrifice” being propagated by the leftists.
The show was entirely agenda-driven and these young girls were sickly used and exploited for that purpose only. The token nod to a pro-life position was a quick question in the discussion panel: “Did you consider adoption?” One of the girls said that wouldn’t have been an option because it wasn’t the baby part that was scary; it was that pregnancy is icky. She had an abortion to avoid pregnancy symptoms. Another one spoke of the sacrifices (her word) that she had to make to pay the $750.00 abortion fee. Her prom ticket, for one.
Sacrifice was a running theme, except it appears that the word has lost any real meaning. The girls spoke of not wanting to sacrifice their college plans. Or of not wanting their partners to sacrifice by having to work two jobs to support another child. And Markai spoke of not wanting her living infant child to “sacrifice for my mistake.” Such rationales were among the most heartbreaking because it’s what we’ve been teaching our youth with society’s insidious entitlement mentality. There is no right to life, but there is a right to college and a right to not be poor. We can’t put a child through going without food or losing electricity for a few days; losing one’s LIFE is far preferable.
The lie is sickening. If this were read by a person completely ignorant of America they would no doubt imagine it as a place of hardship and suffering. Ignoring the fact that adoption would circumvent such monetary “suffering” it’s hard to explain this rationale in relation to those places that are really suffering. How can subscribers to the philosophy of “abortion before suffering” here in America justify any births in third world countries? They must view men such as Ramjit Raghav, a 94 year old Indian man who calls his latest child “a blessing” as heartless fools.
In Tim Russert’s book, “Wisdom of Our Fathers: Lessons and Letters of Daughters and Sons” he points out how his father, like many of the fathers of his era, had to work two full time jobs most of his life. There is an entire chapter dedicated to the hands of that generation; how they were rough, swollen, and torn due to the labor they endured in order to make ends meet – in order to build this nation of luxuries we have today. If it is nobler to abort children who might go without the luxuries of electricity, cable, or college; or if it forces parents to work overtime or two jobs, then how can we justify the births of more than half of this planet? Should the poor in Africa, for instance, be considered cruel for having children? More to point, how can we justify our own existence when such luxuries didn’t exist in our fairly recent past?
It’s personal to me because I’m one of these write offs that wasn’t worth the risk. According to leftists’ doctrine, a rape baby is best left to the fates of the unknown rather than the toils of life. Yet, here I am writing to you because that chance was afforded to me by a 14 year old girl without money or prospects. My life, like many of yours, has been rough at times. That said, my pursuit of happiness has largely been fulfilled. I have a family of my own now which bring me a joy unforeseen by me or the skeptics who would write me off at my most vulnerable moment. My pursuit, like everyone’s, requires inversely the elements of liberty and life. What it does not require are the shackles of man’s predetermination.